One day I was discussing with a personal advisor the feeling of needing to escape or distance myself due to dissatisfaction. What I mean by this is, for example, discontent in a relationship, frustration at work or family disagreements, among others.
This discomfort limits life and causes problems in relationships and with oneself.
By studying these behaviors we reflect on the emotional past in childhood and the relationship of this stage with the desire to flee to abandon what we dislike, we also observe the behavior of parents when facing these situations. After reflecting and investigating we discovered what were the mental conditions that direct this behavior:
Parents would distance themselves when they had family problems or problems between themselves.
Families who had to go live with their grandparents or a relative, over time experienced problems of coexistence, took their suitcases, their children and left that place.
Some parents, when faced with unpleasant situations, used the phrase “we don’t have to put up with this treatment.”
Constant complaints from parents about the environment and coworkers resulted in resignation or dismissal.
Childhood feelings of worthlessness provoked thoughts of escape and never returning home.
- Children with emotional problems among friends or family led to distancing.
We realized that they go hand in hand and that these two feelings express the desire to make changes in the way of life without making them happen, firstly because of not knowing how to take the first step to achieve them, and secondly the feeling of not having someone to accompany, guide or support you on the right path to take action and achieve the desired goal.
We then discover that this dissatisfaction and helplessness is the assessment of what I deserve and need, which originates from comparing what others have. By repeating these thoughts in the mind, they become a habitual negative feeling.